There used to be a time in which we didn’t need the internet in order to meet people. What’s happening to our social skills?
If the above commercial is any indication, it seems that we’re becoming a little too dependent on the internet for socializing. The commercial, advertising an online dating service, implies that such a thing is better than meeting potential lovers by “living [one’s] life.” Admittedly, dating sites do have potential to help begin stable relationships, but can we really go as far as to say that they should be a full-on substitute for doing things the old-fashioned way? Can we honestly consider ruling out meeting people throughout the course of life, just because we’re not guaranteed to chance across someone who clicks with us? I’m not convinced we can.
Whatever our parents and grandparents were doing before online dating sites took off must have worked just as well. It wasn’t all that long ago that sites like eHarmony and Match.com weren’t even around; Match.com launched in 1995 and eHarmony in 2000. Less than 20 years later, people can’t seem to imagine any other way to meet potential lovers. Maybe we should start asking our older, wiser family members for dating advice.
Also, it’s not such a bad thing to meet a couple people who you don’t click with so well. In the process of interacting with people who aren’t necessarily “compatible” with you, you find out what characteristics you really want and don’t want in a potential lover; you might realize what exactly you have to offer in a relationship. It’s a learning experience, and taking the easy route with online dating sites could very well cheat us out of that.
Technology can be a great tool for helping us meet great people sometimes, but there’s no real substitute for actually getting out there and living life.